Day 1: Road trip to Iceland
1 year ago
JUST A FRIEND
Have you ever been stuck in an awkward position before?. Like when you go to an empty toilet, decided you're gonna take a shit and when you come out you find someone you know washing their hands giving you that face of disgust. Well the awkward I'm talking about is nothing like that. You see a guy calls you every day, or almost every day what do you assume. You can assume that he thinks your half cool right.I don't know about you but let's say it's a very confusing place to be. Boundaries start getting crossed, and then you start questioning yourself , What the friggggg are we. We are just friends i remind myself, just friends. But what do you do when he says something so annoying and you can't say anything back because you have no reason to be catty, remember we are just friends. Slowly you guys start arguing like a couple, talking like a couple. No one wants to have to be in that sort of situation. For future reference you already have enough friends don't make things any more awkward. The truth it's hard not to catch feelings for someone you talk to all the time.If it's nothing more than just a friendship is it fair to want out.It's like the most ideal position for a guy, no commitment.Save myself the trip of emotions and remind me that this route is one i'll avoid in the future.....
Now accepting applications for more than just a friend
SWIRL
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The guy is probably thinking exactly what you are but doesnt know how to word it, scared it will complicate things or just simple unsure of her feelings. So unless definitions are established there will constantly be this awkwardness. And if your struggling to not catch feelings stop trying so hard and catch feelings because the more explicit your feelings the easier for the guy to pick up on them (FYI we dont dabble in the implicit)..and thats good you speak almost everyday just means it will be a stronger relationship because an ideal relationship is one where your bestfriends(kinda corny..but cant argue with results)..and once you define things the less arguments because there are boundaries that come with the relationship..
so stop taking applications and start painting pictures for the guy and see how quick he will react and respond..
p.s. not our "ideal" position we dont like playing guessing games way too much work
It looks like you bother are suffering the same symptoms....couldn't relate better...its just the Naked Truth
Sincere why must i be the one to paint the picture. I believe that if he's interested he should just come out and say it. That would just make things so much easier
And to anonymous
your right it is the naked truth
incorrect diagnosis but am glad you agreed with my comment
according to your blog its apparent your the one with issues that are bothering you... so i believe it is you responsibity to start on the canvass and hope you complete the picture together.
lets be honest he might just see you as a friend so its hard to ask him to initiate if your not sure that he's jones'ing for you ...take a chance
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I don't know if its my bluntness but if im talking to someone everyday i think the rules/regulations/guidelines unfold themselves. We both know we are not talking to be eachother's 'friends'. I mean why waste all the time when i could possibly have my Romeo on "call waiting" and have this guy yapping at my ear..only to have us be labelled eachothers "Friend"...NO NO NO , I GO BARACK OBAMA ON THEM "YES WE CAN....BECOME MORE THAN FRIENDS, AND THAN THROW THE HILLARY ON THEM BY SAYIN "YES WE WILL" BE TOGETHER....its as easy as that...so instead of taking applications BE PROACTIVE, BE BLUNT BECAUSE thats the only way for things to progess...and Sincere aka LOVE DOC OF THE ANTIDOTE, fall back blad im going to the gym first thing tomorrow morning
bye bye.
honestly this is something that occurs to lots of people.. and Sincere your awfully optimistic.. situations like these aren't often as simple and cut throat as you make them..just thought i'd add that in
hmm...i seem to agree with alot of these comments, Sincere your right on the be upfront and blunt technique, why waste time right? but i can see the problems in that. its not that easy theres alot of hidden factors we don't add to the equation, but i guess if that person is your "friend" it shouldn't matter what you say to them because they should be able to listen right? and if it works out it works out, if it doesnt, you still should have ur friend there and this can also be a way to test this so-called "friendship"
i can relate to swirl i'm sure many girls have been in that position...Skinny for sincere i do think we should go " GO BARACK OBAMA ON THEM". i mean if we aint hearing the sweet nothingness in our ear NEXT him and keep it moving.. ALIE we got plenty of tom dick and harrys...
things are simple...many people believe matters like this needs to be handled carefully ..am not one of those people i STRONGLY believe the more you spend analyzing the more time goes by...the more wasted time goes by ...the more time spent pointlessly that could of been used towards making the transition from friendship to "more than" friendship....
and to respond to reality101 if there are alot of tom dick n harry's was it... than i guess you gotta ask yourself why linger on this one guy and make him blog worthy if hes replaceable so bittersweet do what you feel and have no regrets
why exactly cant he be 'just' a friend? i find that it totally throws ppl off when someone adds emotions into the mix. You're friends...keep it that way and find the 'more than a friend' somewhere else.
i guess if the only reason you're friends with him is to become more than that to him....then you got yourself a problem. if not..then sure talk about your feelings but know that it could possibly mess up your friendship...or it could blossom into something 'more'.
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